How Do I Get Over an Growing Addiction to Cyber Sex?
Question by Silas Huffy: How do I get over an growing addiction to cyber sex?
A few nights ago I was in a chat room and some guy and I had a sexual conversation.
I thought it was weird and felt dirty afterwords, but I keep going back to chat rooms and having these encounters, and I feel more dirty and guilty afterwards.
Best answer:
Answer by Creestopher
just stop. when you have the urge to go back, go to a different website.
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do what feels right & stop doing what doesnt. our actions follow our thoughts & vicaversa, therefore stop the actions & eventually the thoughts/temptations will whither away & you’ll only have memories of how silly youve been. . .
ive struggled w/ (wanting to quit using) pornography for years. i had a ‘relapse’ last year, but have (re)comitted to not using/watching it & after a cpl months, i hardly ever get the urge. but when i was still involved in the actions/behaviors, i couldnt go long at all w/ out thinking about it or projecting the mentality that it evoked in me on others (i.e. women).
cybersex in itself doesn’t seem like such a bad thing, but only you know whats best for you. . . believe in yourself; your feelings will guide you, trust, respect & abide by them.
one can change their actions or their thoughts or both, i recommend the easiest first: actions. . . once youve cleared some room in your life to think straight, you can re-evaluate your thoughts/feelings/beliefs.
Sex is not inherently bad. In-fact, many medical professions believe sex is actually quiet healthy. However, obsessive compulsive behavior is bad. Sex addiction is any form of behavioral dependency, that is of a sexual natural. So, compulsive sex, pornography or even masturbation, can be considered a form of sex addiction. Obsessively searching for and consuming pornography or sexual partners can also be a form of addiction.
Addiction takes many forms. Addicts either are maintenance users or they binge. There are addicts who work 60-hours a week, without using and then binge on the weekends.
Addiction can either be a chemical dependency or a behavioral dependency. Sex, and masturbation while considered a behavioral dependency, are also a biochemical dependency. True, it is human nature to enjoy sex, however, not everyone can properly moderate the desire, or amount of sex they have. Addiction is a disease and it directly effects the moderation control, found in the frontal lobe, of the brain.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) is used by both psychologists and psychiatrists for diagnosing disorders, such as substance dependence, which is essentially what addiction is. The DSM-IV offers seven criteria for substance dependence.
The seven criteria for substance dependence are:
(1) Tolerance, as defined by either of the following:
(a) A need for markedly increased amounts of the substance to achieve intoxication or desired effect.
(b) Markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of the substance.
(2) Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following: (a) The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance (refer to Criteria A or B of the criteria sets for Withdrawal from specific substances). (b) The same (or a closely related) substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms.
(3) The substance is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than was intended.
(4) There is a persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use. (Unmanageable)
(5) A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain the substance (such as visiting multiple doctors or driving long distances), use the substance (such as chain smoking) or recover from its effects.
(6) Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of substance use.
(7) The substance use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by the substance.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous has created a 40-Question Self-Diagnosis Questionnaire to help you determine if you have an addiction. You can find it here: http://www.slaafws.org/download/core-files/The_40_Questions_of_SLAA.pdf
If you would like to get more information, or begin sex addiction recovery, you can choose from many different sources. SLAA, is the oldest of the sex addiction recovery programs. It is both free and anonymous. Those who lead these programs, are also addicts and can provide you with first-hand relatable experience, strength and hope. The meetings are held on-line, on the phone, and face-to-face.
SLAA – Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
http://www.slaafws.org
http://slaaonline.org
SAA – Sex Addicts Anonymous
http://saa-recovery.org
SA – Sexaholics Anonymous
http://www.sa.org
SCA – Sexual Compulsives Anonymous
http://www.sca-recovery.org/
COSA – Support for friends and family of Sex Addicts
http://www.cosa-recovery.org/
Co-SLAA – Recovery for friends and family of Sex and Love Addicts
http://www.coslaa.org/
Best of luck in life and love. 🙂