I Have a 12 Year Old Girl That Is Getting Out of Control Any Info for Programs in Michigan That Might Help?

step father eh?? sounds like her problems are all dealt from home. maybe try spending some time with her, or putting her in some sports, maybe try listening to your child and telling the step father to be nicer to them. COME ON, your child is 12, they are going through a really tough time right now and all your child needs is more stress added to their life. It’s time to give your child a break and try being a nice understanding parent.

You might check on boot camps for kids in your area. The reason he is probably hard on them is because he wants them to grow up being able to accept responsibility and respect for their elders. You are getting ready to face the terrible teens with your daughter, and this is a time to get a grip on things another year or two and you have lost the battle, you may want to check for youth programs in your area and see what is available.

I hope you mean outpatient programs!

My father put me in a couple of inpatient programs when I was a teen because, frankly, he was selfish and didn’t want to deal with his parental responsibility of raising a troublesome child. He had a brand new marriage and couldn’t be bothered with a 14-year-old nuisance – never mind that I had just lost my mother. He preferred to get me off his back completely. It caused a lot of resentment and a helluva lot of wounds that have never healed. He has regretted it ever since, and though I forgive him, I will never forget. Never forget that he chose to get rid of his daughter. It messed me up psychologically for many years.

I suggest you put your husband in a program instead. (Kidding, kidding…) How do you think your daughter feels when some man who is not her father barges into her life and treats her unkindly? Do you think it may have any effect on her behavior? Of course it does. She’s rebelling against his iron fist. How would you have reacted under the same circumstances if you were in your daughter’s shoes? Remember a teenager’s right to have feelings and reactions.

I think, with all due respect, that you are choosing your husband over your daughter. I understand how hard it can be to find a good man, especially with two kids in tow. You may feel that saving your marriage is your number one priority and it’s easier to ship the problem off to boot camp. But your husband is an adult and, while your relationship is important, you’re not accountable for him. Your daughter, on the other hand, is in the most DELICATE formative years of her life, and your responsibility is to her and only her. You made her, for God’s sake. She did not choose to be born. She’s your responsibility. Think of her first. Talk to your daughter, and take the family to a good counselor.

I think you have the right to tell your husband how he may and may not treat your daughter. It’s your responsibility as a mother. In my opinion, the solution to the problem starts there.

Think rationally (and I don’t mean “try to rationalize your decision”) and compassionately before you do something drastic that might scar this 12-year-old girl for life, like sending her away.

Good luck. Best wishes to you and your family.

I’m 13 so take my advice….*clear throats

Your daughter is proably upset that she’s getting another dad. Did you tell her if it was okay with her? Did you tell her how she felt? Maybe she feels left out and like your family is breaking apart. When I was 12, I was worried about those things all the time and I felt nervous and mad because my parents use to fight all the time but then….as I was growing up, I relizaed I was being all wrong and gettin it mixed up. I’m learning more and more things as days go by…don’t worry, your daughter is 12

She will grow out of it and feel used to having a stepfather but you should really take her to the mall and buy her as many things as possible (that will always help) and then afterwards…take her out for lunch or dinner (just the two of you)…talk things out, talk about emotions, how you guys feel, have girl time together.

Try to make her happy, get inside her and try to tell what she’s thinking by lookign in her eyes and getting more info on whats goin on in school…teenagers like that and try to be her best friend. Make her feel comfortable and safe. GOOD LUCK!

She proably thinks she’s going thro a lot right now and gonna go crazy because of your new husband. Tell him to calm down more and listen to the kids, be their friend…they proably dislike him….if I had a stepfather…I know I would dislike him because he’s a stranger whom my mother just married….to be honest, I dont belive in divorce ^_^

But if u dont want ur daughter 2 go crazy and all that…..tell him to chill and listen the kids at all times. Spend time together, go to a famiyl cousenlor or something…play a game together. She’s still young and the worst part is….she’s a teenager just like me! Teenagers are going thro a lot in their years…they’re tryign to find themselves, find out who they are, sort things out, growing up, boys, whatever….